Now I wish I had something hilarious to report, but I don't. Oddly, my life has been somewhat "normal" this last week. I haven't hurt myself at all. Should I be glad about that or nervous that something is coming around the corner to whack me in the head??? Eeks!
I figured I'm just going to report the interesting "firsts" as some of them really are not that interesting. There are many topics that I want to open this blog up to, and if you want to email me or FB inbox me a topic of importance to you, please do and I will open the floor. I think too many of us wallow in self pity thinking that no one could possibly understand what we are going through or have the same problems that we do. Well, let me be the first to tell you that you are full of $#*t and very self-centered if that is the case. With billions of people on this planet, do you think you're the only person with this set of problems? Now I'm not inviting bitch sessions. But, if there is a problem that you want to address, lets do it and get it out there and find solutions! Anyone have anything they want to throw out there???
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Yay!! You are back!! Ok, here's one for ya.. are there any other step mom's out there?
ReplyDeleteWhat's the problem you are having? Maybe someone in a similar situation can give some insight.....I don't know how many step mom "friends" I have, but someone may be able to help!!! Thanks for throwing something in the ring! : )
ReplyDeleteOh gosh, where do I begin? Well, the main problem is dicipline. They push back when I ask them to follow the rules in our house. Simple rules, like putting things away, cleaning up their rooms, etc. They have very few rules at their mom's house, so they are not open to rules at my house. They view me as the "fun" one, which is good, except when it comes to me having to enforce something. Their dad does a good job, but it's mostly when he is not around. I guess it's a lack of respect thing?
ReplyDeleteOk, since no one has responded here are my two cents. Yes, it's a lack of respect thing. There is a line between being a friend and being a parent, and most times you need to be the parent, even if it seems mean. I firmly believe that kids should respect their elders, and that they should be expected to follow rules and behave appropriately. I do not think it is appropriate or acceptable when I take my kids to dinner and the table next to me has their kids bouncing off the walls. That is just SOOO not OK. So, I know the kids you are talking about are older. But, do they act like this in class? Would they get away with it with their Mom? Probably not. So, you should be shown the same respect. I am definitely a tough love kind of parent (not spanking, shouting or abuse), but my kids know their place. It definitely makes for a strong bond as they know I love them more than life, but also do what's best for them, and sometimes those lessons are not easy!
ReplyDeleteI agree with you, completely!! The main problem I'm finding is that the mom does not dicipline and prides herself on being their friend...they even tell me that, so they even see it!! So, when I make them do something or ASK them to do something, it's not what they are used to, so I get major pushback..it's a fine line too b/c my husband doesn't want to make it so they just don't come over anymore....I don't know, I guess I'll just keep plugging away....maybe I'll write a book!!!
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